How To Break The News To Your Child: Selling Your Home
Do you have children? Are you worried that they may be too young or too attached to their home? This is a common concern that many parents have, but feel powerless in addressing. You child may not know any other place to be called “home”. It could be hard for them to understand why they have to leave the safe space they have established. Below we have a few recommendations to help make this transition just a little bit easier.
Talk To Your Child Like You Would An Adult
This may seem counterintuitive at first, but you will be thankful that you did. If you have a young child, you may be wondering if they will really understand what you are saying to them. Maybe they will, and it is possible that they may not, but what they will remember about the interaction is that you didn’t treat them like they were silly, uneducated, or incapable of understanding. This bond that you establish with them by talking to them by an adult will be one of the strongest bonds you make with your child. Let them know that they can trust you during this process. That they can talk to you about anything and everything like an adult.
Ask Them How They Are Feeling?
Your child will need a bit of time to process the information that they are feeling. They will probably feel angry, upset, frustrated, or scared at first because this is brand new information to them. Let them talk about those feelings so that they can address them head on instead of suppressing them for years to come. Let your child know that every little feeling and emotion that they are experiencing is normal and that they can always come to you to talk about it. You and your child will both be thankful for this open line of communication throughout the buying and selling process.
Let Your Child Be Upset
If your child does storm off and want to be alone during this process, let them know that is okay too. They may have to go away from you to think about what this really means to them. Their entire world is about to change and they have little to no say about it. That has to be a very scary thing to face head on. Perhaps after spending some quality time alone they will be able to come to terms with the fact that they can indeed deal with it in their own way. They will respect the fact that you have let them make their own decision to walk away.
Never Force Your Child To Do Anything
Never forcing your child to do anything does not mean that you shouldn’t make them brush their teeth or get dressed for school the next day. What we mean is to never force your child to stay in the room with you if they need to be alone. Never force your child to feel an emotion that they do not feel. Never force your child to accept the fact that they are moving. Your child has to deal with these things in a way that makes sense to them. You would want the same level of respect if it came to you. Your child will have to move eventually, but by then you should have let them come to terms with the loss that they are feeling. If you have established a quality relationship with your child, they will trust you and move without physical force.